{"id":10843,"date":"2016-02-01T10:54:15","date_gmt":"2016-02-01T00:54:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/?p=10843"},"modified":"2016-02-01T10:54:15","modified_gmt":"2016-02-01T00:54:15","slug":"an-absent-family-brings-out-the-tina-turner-in-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/an-absent-family-brings-out-the-tina-turner-in-me\/","title":{"rendered":"An Absent Family Brings Out the Tina Turner in Me!"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_10846\" style=\"width: 310px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-writing-all-the-hours.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-10846\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-10846\" class=\"wp-image-10846 size-medium\" src=\"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-writing-all-the-hours-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"Zena Shapter writing all the hours\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-writing-all-the-hours-300x225.jpg 300w, http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-writing-all-the-hours-768x576.jpg 768w, http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-writing-all-the-hours-1024x768.jpg 1024w, http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-writing-all-the-hours.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-10846\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Working &amp; Writing All The Hours<\/p><\/div>\n<p>So, the long summer holidays have finally ended here in Sydney and the kids have gone back to school. A few years ago, I used to dread school holidays and the interruption they brought to my work schedule, given I work from home. I love my work!<\/p>\n<p>These days, the kids are more independent and I can get at least an hour of work or writing done a day, so it doesn\u2019t worry me as much anymore. That\u2019s of course not enough to progress with projects, just enough to keep them ticking over. And the kids are at such a fun age (8 and 10), the school holidays are now a delight!<\/p>\n<p>Still, when Hubbie offered to take the kids camping, twice, I jumped at the chance. A few days to focus \u2013 what bliss! I\u2019ve always loved silence and that love has quadrupled since having children. For me silence means freedom \u2013 freedom to concentrate <em>and<\/em> let my mind drift. I don\u2019t have to fight to hear my own thoughts, my characters\u2019 voices or the rhythm of my words. When the children are home and otherwise occupied, I use headphones to drown out their playful noise, listening instead to &#8216;rain music&#8217; like this:<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"900\" height=\"507\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/aIHtQUnpl5I?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-AU&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p>But there\u2019s no need for headphones when Daddy takes everyone camping! They get to do All The Camping Things. I get to sleep when I want, eat as my body prefers, and enjoy the sounds of cicadas and magpies or kookaburras outside in the garden.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_10848\" style=\"width: 310px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-Dinner-with-Kids-Toys.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-10848\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-10848\" class=\"wp-image-10848 size-medium\" src=\"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-Dinner-with-Kids-Toys-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"Zena Shapter Dinner with Kids Toys\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-Dinner-with-Kids-Toys-300x225.jpg 300w, http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-Dinner-with-Kids-Toys.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-10848\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">When they&#8217;re away, my kids like me to eat dinner with their favourite cuddly animals, then text them a photo as proof!<\/p><\/div>\n<p>However, I also have trouble sleeping. With no set routine, I become a workaholic, cramming as much work as I can into the few days my little family is away. I stay up to midnight working, then as soon as dawn wakes me around 6am I\u2019m back on the computer. It\u2019s not a restful sleep either \u2013 I toss and turn thinking through my plots and having ideas.<\/p>\n<p>One day during the latest camp trip, I realised I\u2019d been on the computer for too long and figured I ought to leave the house at least once before nightfall. So I walked to our front gate and checked our mailbox, looked up at the trees there, took a deep breath, then sorted through the mail on my walk back inside. I\u2019d say there are 10 metres between our front door and the front gate!<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_10847\" style=\"width: 310px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-night-in.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-10847\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-10847\" class=\"wp-image-10847 size-medium\" src=\"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-night-in-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"Zena Shapter night in\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-night-in-300x225.jpg 300w, http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-night-in-768x576.jpg 768w, http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Zena-Shapter-night-in-1024x768.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-10847\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">A night in with a cuddly friend, mince pie and ice cream.<\/p><\/div>\n<p>I also started to force myself to stop working at 8.30pm to watch a movie or read a book, so I&#8217;d feel tired and rested enough when I turned out the light. Still, I didn\u2019t sleep well, waking throughout the night, then waking early (in the silence!) with tired eyes and a busy mind. Perhaps my brain is smaller than my intentions, unable to cope with the comparative influx of stimulation?<\/p>\n<p>Or I missed everyone\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Either way, I\u2019ve come to the conclusion that I actually work better when my family is around. I have to juggle more, and compromise more, but they also keep me in check. I can\u2019t work or write All The Hours because they need feeding and hugging and loving. And in turn they ensure I am rested, hugged and loved too.<\/p>\n<p>School holidays will always put a dent in my work production. When the children are home I have to listen to weather music to work. But I wouldn\u2019t have it any other way. My family is, as Tina Turner would say, simply the best \u2013 without them I start losing control! Check out the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=ceo353gPt2g\" target=\"_blank\">Acid Queen<\/a> singing here at the impressive age of 76:<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"900\" height=\"507\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/r16UkiI5wjY?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-AU&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So, the long summer holidays have finally ended here in Sydney and the kids have gone back to school. A few years ago, I used to dread school holidays and the interruption they brought to my work schedule, given I work from home. I love my work! 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