{"id":7357,"date":"2013-07-24T07:54:38","date_gmt":"2013-07-23T21:54:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.zenashapter.com\/blog\/?p=7357"},"modified":"2013-10-08T12:19:33","modified_gmt":"2013-10-08T01:19:33","slug":"how-to-handle-rejection-20-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/how-to-handle-rejection-20-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Handle #Rejection \u2013 20 Tips!"},"content":{"rendered":"

A writer-friend asked me the other day how I handle rejection. What a great topic for a blog, I thought!<\/p>\n

Over the years, I\u2019ve developed a fantastic set of tactics to handle rejection, so I thought I\u2019d share them with you\u2026<\/p>\n

PLEASE NOTE: these tactics don\u2019t always<\/em> work, but they sure do help!<\/p>\n

ALSO: while I use the collective word \u2018story\u2019, these tips can apply to short stories, novels, poems, plays, scripts, non-fiction or any other creative writing endeavour. Good luck!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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  1. Focus on your progression as a writer. Are you closer to your \u2018dream writing lifestyle\u2019 than you were this time last year? If the answer is yes, then this rejection is just a blip. Keep going!<\/li>\n
  2. Remember that every story has its rightful home. Once this story has found its home, the rejections you\u2019ve received en route will simply slip into insignificance.<\/li>\n
  3. Think about why your story might not have been accepted this time. It could be anything from mismatched themes or personal preference, to economic viability or bad timing. What does your gut say? You may have even received some feedback. By finding something to improve in the story, you\u2019ll give yourself some focus, as well as hope.<\/li>\n
  4. Where to next? Before sending off a submission, always know where you\u2019ll be sending that story next should it get rejected. Having a back-up plan before you receive a rejection will soften the blow.<\/li>\n
  5. Wine will help. Or beer. Or spirits. But not all at the same time. Alternately is fine. (In moderation of course!)<\/li>\n
  6. Tell yourself that you didn\u2019t want to be published there anyway! Find a flaw, a reason, anything to convince yourself that you\u2019re better off without that publisher\/backer for your story. In a way, it\u2019s true. If they don\u2019t love your story enough to see past the risk of publishing it, then your story is better off without them. Your story deserves a platform and a backer that will champion it whole-heartedly to the world.<\/li>\n
  7. Chocolate helps too. (In moderation of course!)<\/li>\n
  8. Re-read your opening paragraph \u2013 you\u2019ll be surprised at how good this will make you feel. You\u2019re a good writer. It\u2019s a good story. You just need to keep going. It will find its rightful home!<\/li>\n
  9. Consider yourself lucky that your story wasn\u2019t accepted this time, because of course you\u2019re so busy with your current story you wouldn\u2019t have time to deal with the success anyway. In fact, you\u2019re so deep in the world of your next story, that you don\u2019t even have the time to feel bothered by the rejection.<\/li>\n
  10. Phone a friend! Publishing industry friends are the best because they know just how hard it is out there.<\/li>\n
  11. Socializing with those who know little-to-nothing about your writing career is good too. Take a break from things. It will give you some perspective.<\/li>\n
  12. Alternatively, stay away from people! Sometimes when you want to offload your problems by talking them through, people run a mile. That will only make you feel worse!<\/li>\n
  13. Play some good music. Uplifting tracks will make you feel invincible. Alternatively, play miserable music and wallow in it for a while. Once you’re bored of being miserable, you’ll feel ready to tackle the submission process again.<\/li>\n
  14. Keep in mind that there are more important things in life than the acceptance of your story. Your health and your family are two of them. Be grateful for what you have of each. Many writers don\u2019t have as much as that. Next week, you might lose some of the good fortune you\u2019re currently taking for granted, then you\u2019ll wish you hadn\u2019t moped over that silly rejection for as long as you did.<\/li>\n
  15. Forget that you sent the submission. Obviously keep a record somewhere, but then forget about it. That way, when you receive a rejection, it won\u2019t matter to you!!<\/li>\n
  16. Hugs help.<\/li>\n
  17. See it as an achievement! The Canberra Speculative Fiction Guild have a competition among members to see who can generate the most rejections in a calendar year. Maybe you could try getting more rejections this year than you did last year? At least that way you can be sure your work gets out there.<\/li>\n
  18. Have a cry, or go punch something (whichever suits your personality). Once you\u2019ve cleared out all that negative emotion, you\u2019ll be able to see the rejection from a business perspective. Publishing is a business, so a rejection doesn\u2019t necessarily mean your story is rubbish! Find a publisher who sees your story not as a risk but for the opportunity it presents.<\/li>\n
  19. See the rejection as training for once you\u2019re famous. You\u2019ll need a much thicker skin when you\u2019re constantly in the public eye, so the more practice you get now the better.<\/li>\n
  20. Chin up and on you go \u2013 sometimes it\u2019s that simple. Don\u2019t worry, be happy. It\u2019s them not you. They\u2019re not worth it. Forget about it. Every cloud has a silver lining. The road to success is paved with failure \u2013 you\u2019re busy paving yours.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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    Don’t give up!<\/p><\/div>\n

    Most of all \u2013 don\u2019t give up.<\/p>\n

    Don\u2019t take any rejection personally.<\/p>\n

    You\u2019ll get there one day!<\/p>\n

    So just suck it up and move forward.<\/p>\n

    …Now that\u2019s how you handle rejection! Good luck my friends!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    A writer-friend asked me the other day how I handle rejection. What a great topic for a blog, I thought! Over the years, I\u2019ve developed a fantastic set of tactics to handle rejection, so I thought I\u2019d share them with you\u2026 PLEASE NOTE: these tactics don\u2019t always work, but they\u2026<\/p>\n

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