{"id":12542,"date":"2018-04-27T16:14:02","date_gmt":"2018-04-27T06:14:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/?p=12542"},"modified":"2019-08-01T10:44:32","modified_gmt":"2019-08-01T00:44:32","slug":"whatever-it-takes-resilience-writer-creative","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/whatever-it-takes-resilience-writer-creative\/","title":{"rendered":"Whatever It Takes? #Resilience #Writer #Creative"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-12545\" src=\"http:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/DSC_0223a-small-197x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"197\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/DSC_0223a-small-197x300.jpg 197w, https:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/DSC_0223a-small-99x150.jpg 99w, https:\/\/zenashapter.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/DSC_0223a-small.jpg 329w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 197px) 100vw, 197px\" \/>Life doesn\u2019t always go to plan. This week I\u2019ve received a career knock back every single day. Every \u2013 single \u2013 day. I celebrate a lot of my successes on this blog, but it\u2019s just as important to share my behind-the-scene disappointments \u2013 that way you get to experience my journey with me! It isn\u2019t always woo hoo and hurray! Social media is about sharing experiences after all. So, let me ask you this: how do you handle career knock backs?<\/p>\n<p>Usually for me it\u2019s a 5-stage process. It takes that long for things to settle after the storm of disappointment that&#8217;s swept through.<\/p>\n<h3>Stage 1<\/h3>\n<p>Stage 1 involves sadness. It fills my chest and drags down the corners of my mouth making it hard to smile. I consider giving up. I wonder, how much more can I take? I\u2019m disappointed not only with whatever hasn\u2019t gone my way, but all my previous disappointments cave in on me. Am I wasting my time? I want both to be alone, and not to be left with the grey loneliness of feeling miserable.<\/p>\n<h3>Stage 2<\/h3>\n<p>Stage 2 kicks in the minute my brain starts problem-solving. It\u2019ll throw an idea at me, and that\u2019s when I know I\u2019m starting to move on, to adapt. Okay, I tell myself, so if this is the way things are going to be, what can I do next? What if I try this or that? I bounce around ideas. I accept the new way things are going to be and find a work around. Can I figure out why things didn\u2019t go the way I wanted and try again? I analyse. More ideas come. This makes me feel better and moves me into stage 3.<\/p>\n<h3>Stage 3<\/h3>\n<p>Stage 3 involves connecting with others. I seek for reassurance that I\u2019m not the only one having these same experiences. I often find that connection through talking with writer-friends who can identify, or through listening to music. I seek out songs that speak of\u00a0 fighting onwards, not giving up, facing unlikely odds and pushing on anyway. I look especially for songs about other artists pursuing their passions, aiming high and shooting for the stars. Today I listened to so many awesome songs I started <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/playlist?list=PLUeZ3zy59KaJSD9pSZz5-T2In2d9z3-va\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">a YouTube playlist<\/a> for future use, and to share with you of course. I\u2019m sorry, I like pop, so the playlist reflects this! Here are two examples:<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"900\" height=\"507\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/gOsM-DYAEhY?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-AU&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"900\" height=\"507\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/IlkBLwl4aBM?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-AU&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p>The rest of my playlist is <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/playlist?list=PLUeZ3zy59KaJSD9pSZz5-T2In2d9z3-va\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">here<\/a>:<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"900\" height=\"507\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-AU&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent&#038;listType=playlist&#038;list=PLUeZ3zy59KaJSD9pSZz5-T2In2d9z3-va\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<h3>Stage 4<\/h3>\n<p>Through listening to others\u2019 similar journeys, I then move into stage 4, which involves gratitude. I take ownership of my journey and appreciate where I am, and what I\u2019ve achieved to this point. I\u2019m lucky to at least be who I am, where and when. Things could be so much worse.<\/p>\n<h3>Stage 5<\/h3>\n<p>Finally, with some ideas in mind, connections made, and my perspective adjusted, I reach the last stage \u2013 choice. I can choose to give up on the progress I\u2019m trying to achieve, or I can choose to keep going. Most of the time, I choose to keep going, but not always. Ending a pursuit can be just as rewarding as continuing, as it can free you up to consider new opportunities. What else is out there waiting for me? Or if I just keep pushing a little further, will I achieve my goal? Either way, I tell myself that I\u2019ll find my way eventually, and get busy searching for the how and when. I&#8217;ll get there, whatever it takes. It&#8217;s in my nature to persevere.<\/p>\n<p>What about you, how do you handle knock backs? More importantly, have you got any tracks to add to my <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/playlist?list=PLUeZ3zy59KaJSD9pSZz5-T2In2d9z3-va\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">playlist<\/a>?!!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Life doesn\u2019t always go to plan. This week I\u2019ve received a career knock back every single day. Every \u2013 single \u2013 day. 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